Are you totally into your partner, and want to involve sex toys into your relationship but are not sure how to bring it up? Well, this can be a very tricky subject and for some, and not easy at all to just talk about.
Some people are too shy and others just plain uncomfortable. But if you want to try exploring the fantastic world of sex toys, and are way to nervous, then here are some hints and tips to get the conversation flowing.
The best piece of advice is but don't be shy. This is one of those big steps in life that is so much better once you've taken. And you will most likely not regret it. Tell them how much better your sex life will be. Try doing some research on adult toys before you bring it up. Look at our sex toy information get informed on the toys you want to try. That way you can answer the obvious questions your partner will have.
Start with beginners sex toys, normally the easy, small ones. look for small size in the descriptions. Maybe a bullet vibrator or you can wear a vibrating cock ring to give both of you pleasure during sex. Something discreet that will just open the door to your new hobby. You don't want to throw your nervous partner into something uncomfortable. Comfort is one of the most important parts of exploring sex toys.
Maybe don't talk about it. If you want to be sexy about it, try buying a sex toy, and surprising your partner with it! Surprise them with a gift nicely wrapped. They might blush and wonder what is up when they open it, but just tell them you thought maybe tonight the two of you could try it out! This way you skip the embarrassing conversation, and it will be easier on both of you having an adult toy already there.
If you are going to show up with a new toy, make sure you also purchase personal lubrication. Lube is very important to use with any sex toy. It relieves the friction the toy may create, and will allow for easy insertion.
If you are not sure which sex toy is appropriate for you and your partner, maybe just come home with a bottle of lube itself. Then suggest the pair of you spend some time later that night looking at sex toys on this online sex shop because we have lots of information, great pictures and detailed descriptions and are perfect for first time sex toy shopping.
If you do want to talk about it first, then there are ways of bringing it up. Wait until bed time and bring it up then. Just start by asking, “so.. what do you think about trying out sex toys?” Or something along those lines. If not before bed then try at dinner if the two of you are alone. Mention how you've been thinking about maybe spicing things up in the bedroom, and were wondering their opinion. Then you can show her the vibrator guides or mini sex toy guides to get her to choose a style of sex toy. Find the time you think is best, and just go right out and say it!
Make sure to check out or best sex toy awards page to see the different types of sex toys and what you can expect from them, it's a great place to start.
Try leaving tiny hints around the house as a cute way of bringing it up. Star out by leaving a bottle of flavored massage oil next to the computer to hint you want a sexy evening. Then maybe a bottle of lube next to the phone, and later print or cut out a picture of a clit stimulator and place it on your partners pillow. That is a sure fire way to hint that you also want to use sex toys!
If you want to ease into sex toys, and not start right away, you could try role playing. Buy a kinky costume or two, and try acting out your wildest dreams! Your partner will love seeing you all dressed up and will love seeing your wilder side. Once you are comfortable with that, then try adding adult toys into your scene. Try the small ones at first and see what you think! Sex toys go very well with role playing!
A good way to surprise your partner and get them curious about your new interest is to have them walk in on you while experimenting with your new adult toy! Maybe when they come home from work, or just after they shower, they can walk into the bedroom and see you playing around. That will almost defiantly encourage them to hop right in and get involved!
However you choose to bring up the subject of sex toys, make sure you are respectful to your partners needs and concerns. I mentioned earlier that comfort is one of the most important aspects of the sex toy experience, but the number one aspect is safety. Always use lubrication with your sex toys, and proper cleaning methods. Use a sex toy cleaner to wipe them clean before and after each use, and make sure to note if your sex toy is waterproof or not. Use common sense, and don't try anything you don't want to. Start out small, and work your way up. There is no rush, just sit back and enjoy the new and exciting world of adult toys! Good Luck!
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